Feel guilty for overeating, for eating “sinfully”? Cancel that thought! We judge ourselves (and sometimes others) constantly, and often harshly. It’s part of the way we’re wired, as human beings and especially as Americans. 70% of men and 80% of women in this nation feel guilty for eating something they enjoy, and it’s a terrible shame.
When you’re busy feeling guilty, eating one piece of candy can turn into eating the whole bag. Not only does guilt spoil the very real pleasure we should be having with each bite, it masks the awareness that would allow us to feel satisfied and stop when we’ve had enough, or maybe make a different choice entirely. There are many reasons for this pervasive sense of guilt (which is mostly unique to us in the U.S.–people from other countries think we’re a bit crazy). We worry more about what we eat and take less pleasure in it than anyone else on Earth. But right now, let’s just talk about the damage judgment can do and what to do about it.
In the end, guilt and judgment lock us into a cycle of
eat –> guilt –> grab another bite –> guilt
Of course, telling someone to “Not Judge” is a little like telling them to not breathe. That’s because judgment is often our automatic response, and we can’t just stop it, we need to replace it with another response–one that can eventually become an automatic habit as well.
The goal is to create a new cycle that generates health and happiness:
hungry –> eat –> enjoyment –> satisfaction –> stop (till hungry again)
The key to this virtuous cycle is CURIOSITY–instead of judgment.
When you want food, Get Curious: “Am I Physically Hungry? How Hungry?” “If I’m not hungry, why do I want food?”
When you eat, Get Curious: “Am I enjoying this? How does it taste? Am I still hungry?” “If I’m not hungry any more, do I want to stop? If not, why do I want to keep eating?”
The answers to these questions are critical because they provide vital clues you’ll need on the journey to lasting weight loss. Trying to control your eating without knowing the answers is like playing “Whack-A-Mole”: each time you suppress the urge to eat using willpower, it will pop up again and again until your willpower gives out. That’s just playing on the surface. For lasting solutions, you have to go deep, get curious, and find out what makes you tick.
This is not for the faint of heart, it takes courage and patience, but the rewards are priceless:
- Freedom from guilt
- Real Pleasure in eating
- A Happier, Healthier Weight
You don’t have to go it alone. There’s guidance and support available — reach out today to discover where curiosity could take you. Click to Schedule a free consultation: https://10to8.com/book/appetiteclarity/163951/